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John

John is in his twenties and works for a substance misuse service. He started gambling when he was 18 years old at university. He was in an environment where gambling was normalised and lots of his friends were betting. As he started gambling more, he began to miss lectures and spent less time socialising with his friends. He was experiencing stress, anxiety, and other things in his personal life and says he used gambling as a coping mechanism. This went on for six years until he reached a turning point after he was able to gamble all his money online in the space of four hours. He used GAMSTOP, which he describes as a brilliant service that helped him to stop gambling.

John says he is sharing his story as he does not want other people to feel the same shame and guilt that he did. He wants gambling to be treated as a public health issue, in the same way that drugs and alcohol are. John says screening for gambling harms is very important and he is in the process of implementing a screening and referral process at his work. He also wants to see conversations around gambling normalised, more campaigns about gambling harms, and more available information about where people can access support.

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I probably started gambling at the age of 18, at university. The start was probably the same way most other 18-year-old lads would. Grew up with mates. I play cricket, I play rugby and just them real gamblergenic environments where it’s a normal thing to do.

Gambling Experiences

It’d all be online. Doesn’t feel like real money. It’s purely just numbers in your bank account. It’s numbers on a William Hill account. There was never just one. It was whatever bookmakers I was with. It was just numbers. I could never do cash betting. Once I had that physical money in my hands, it was money then. I couldn’t justify spending that money. It was too accessible online.

Gambling Experiences

I finished gambling with about £16,500 of debt. As a student, you can’t afford that. I’d miss lectures, so it took me two extra years to finish university because my life was just taken up by gambling. I wouldn’t go to lectures. I’d miss deadlines. I’d make up all sorts of reasons why I couldn’t submit something because I’d spent the day before where I should’ve been doing work, I was just gambling.

Harm
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Like I said, it’s not a conversation that’s had. Young people out there just think it’s normal. I don’t think betting is a normal thing to do. You probably know yourself in marketing. It’s hard to read articles now and see videos online where the most marketing is done to the highest-risk gamblers. You’d never see that in a pub with drinkers. You’d never see the person who’s in there every day, drinking six, seven pints in the evening, you’d never see that pub landlord putting offers on just for that one person. You’re pushing offers in that one person’s face. It’s never the case, but with gambling, it seems to be the normal thing to do with it.

John
Stigma
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If you think there’s an issue, there probably is one. If you think you need to talk about it, then you do. There’s so many other people going through the exact same thing. You think you’re alone when you’re gambling. You think everyone else around you’s got control and you haven’t. It’s okay to admit you don’t have control over something. You can get control over it. However much money you’ve lost at this point, you’ll get it back in the future and more but not through gambling. It’s got to come from getting well first and then the money comes back. The main thing is just focusing on getting well, getting help, and just accepting help is the main one and just talking. I don’t have some big profound thing I can say that it’s just talking. Bottling things up is what makes things spiral. At the end of it, you think that’s the end of your world and it’s not. There’s tomorrow to live. Tomorrow’s always going to be a better day than today, but you just got get through to that day. You’ve got to make the most of your future. It’s never the end. There’s always possibilities there.

John
Recovery
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I still have relapse dreams. I wake up in the middle of the night and have this horrible feeling, just guilt, shame like I’ve let everyone down. It’s a dream at the end of the day, but it feels so real. I still have urges. World Cup’s coming up. Football for me, was always the big one. I don’t enjoy football anymore. I follow it, but I look back at the little kid I was watching football all the time, loving it, loving going to the match, things like that, but I just can’t enjoy it anymore as much as I do. Not in the way that football’s this evil thing that ruined my life. I associate it still with money, still with betting, so I don’t have that excitement as it was when a football bet was on it.

John
Harm

Everyone was in the same boat. Everyone’s betting every week. Everyone’s losing money. It’s a joke at that point. It’s a laugh. You’re joking about having just put £400 on, lost it. You’re going, “Oh, not again,” and your mates are laughing with you. You’ve sat around the table doing the exact same thing, so if your mates are doing it, how is it a problem? I think that was the issue with it.

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