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Mark

Mark is a father and works for his local council. He started gambling in his teenage years, going to poker tournaments, and putting on football accumulator bets with his friends. He says he often felt anxious and used gambling to cope with his thoughts. He stopped gambling for a bit but then bought a lottery ticket which led him to gambling more and more. He says he felt like a hamster caught in a wheel doing the same thing over and over again.

He saw his GP who prescribed him antidepressants, but he says that is not what he needed – he needed information for groups where he could speak to like-minded people, who understood what he was going through. He worked with EPIC who he says really helped him. After stopping gambling, he still feels long term impacts such as panic attacks, and heart palpitations although he says these are starting to die down.

In addition to seeing more GPs signposting people to additional support services, he would also like to see the self-exclusion process improved in high street bookmakers, such as a universal card that connects all betting accounts across the different bookmakers. Now, Mark says he’s done things he never thought he would when he was gambling such as running a half marathon. He is also looking into using ways he can use his own experience to help other people who are going through something similar.

 

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When I went to see my GP, he was like, “You need to go talking therapies, or you need antidepressants,” and I’m thinking like– Obviously, at the time, you just accept it because he’s the GP, but looking back, I think I didn’t need that. I was on antidepressants for two years, I’ve really just come off them recently. It was the meetings that I needed. People to speak to, like-minded people.

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All I can describe it as is, say if I was going down the shop– I think I used this example a while back. I would go down to the shop for my haircut, and I would take £20. I’d walk to the barbers, and the betting shop is after the barbers, so I would have to walk past the barbers to get to the betting shop. For someone who struggles with gambling or someone who is addicted to gambling, once they see the betting sign, what their initial plan was goes out the window. It’s like, as soon as you– It’s like you’re a fish, and these betting shops are the rod. As soon as you see that betting shop, the rod is in, and it’s reeling you in. As soon as you’re there, you know what you’re doing is wrong, but there’s an overwhelming sensation. It’s like the angel and the devil scenario, but obviously, the devil always wins– Well, in my case it did. I knew it was wrong, I knew what I was doing was wrong, and a £20 haircut would turn into a £400 one, because I’d spend all that money.

Mark
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I get a lot of physical symptoms, and I’m always at the doctor’s. I’ve being accused of being a hypochondriac, stuff like that, and I think in all honesty, because my body for years has been used to being so tense and so stressed, it would always give it like– I would have horrible heart palpitations and– What do you call them? Panic attacks, and I would get brain zaps, like electric shocks in my brain. It’s only just recently that they’ve just started to die down, but they’re still happening, and I can’t explain why, because I’m not anxious and I’m not worried about anything. I think it’s just like I said, my body is just so used to it. Don’t get us wrong, it died down massively, but that’s one thing.

Mark
Harm

I feel like if GPs have the Gamblers Anonymous meetings, leaflets, or something along them lines, the gambling clinics and stuff like that, then it means that– Because if you’re going to go for help, and then you get disregarded, it means you’re having to look for help two or three times. You should just be able to come for help once, get the information you need, and then decide where you want to go from there.

Change

In regards to banks, I know that they’ve got the gambling blocks on the apps, but it only lasts for 48 hours. If you are putting a gambling block on your card, it should be for a lifetime, or it should be until the expiry date ends, or something like that. Because what’s the point of putting a block on for two days and then turning it off, and then two days later, you’re allowed to bet again? I understand that they’re trying to do something right, but it’s a very small thing, and it’s something that– If you’re going to do it, just do it right, I suppose.

Change

My friend groups aren’t the same as what they used to be. You could look at that being a positive and a negative. Positive in a way that I’m with like-minded people now, people who can help us, people who can support us. In the other respect, I’ve known these people for 30 years, like my friends from school, they all still drink, they all still gamble… I’ve had some really good times with them people. At the same time, obviously, when I told them I had a gambling problem, they were like, “Oh, it’s not that bad, man. Surely, you can just spend £20 a month,” and I’m like, “You just don’t understand. You just don’t have a clue.” Obviously, when I’m with these other people, it’s just like, “Do you want to go for a coffee?” Then we just talk about our experiences, and it’s just brilliant to have.

Recovery

I play 11-a-side football, and I just love football, I would play it every day if I could. There’s a team based around recovery, so basically, everyone on the football team is in recovery, whether that be doing drugs or gambling. We call them barriers, when you give your cards up and stuff like that, it’s like it’s just another barrier for me being in a group, and it’s so nice.

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I think, like we say when we’re going to the meetings, I think if you’re really struggling, I think the first thing you need to do is– I suppose it can work either way, but accept that you’ve got a problem first of all, and that you need help. Second of all, be open and honest with the people that you trust, whether that be your partner, whether that be your best friend, even someone at work. I know some people are close to people at work, others aren’t, but anyone at all. I know, obviously, people are very scared of being judged, but if you’re close to that person, if you feel as close to that person as you feel in your heart, then you shouldn’t have a problem explaining anything to them, and just get help as quick as you can. There’s plenty out there. I didn’t realize how much there was out there until I did a bit of research for myself. Obviously, I used Google, and you’ve got GambleAware, Gamban, GamLEARN, there’s stuff out there for families. I think in hindsight, if I knew what I did back then, then I wouldn’t be where I am now, if you know what I mean. I feel like I had to do it myself to be here now, so I’m just glad that obviously, everything’s happening and stuff like that.

Mark
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