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Adrian

Adrian is in his mid-thirties. He gambled occasionally until his early twenties when he moved to a new city. He felt isolated and started gambling more often. He had a large win at a casino, which he says was the worst thing that could have happened as he was always trying to chase that win.

Adrian describes the cycle he then entered as relentless. He says experiencing gambling addiction is very lonely as you don’t want to involve anyone else because of the stigma. Talking to people with lived experience on Twitter helped him to stop gambling, as they understood what he was going through as they had been through it themselves.

After he stopped gambling, Adrian was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that was directly related to gambling harm. He says the impact of gambling is still there, but he has been receiving help from counsellors and a psychologist.

Adrian says the gambling industry need to take more accountability and use the data that they have on how much people are spending and act. He would also like to see more training for GPs on gambling and gambling stigma, as well as more gambling support integrated into workplace practices.

 

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I was always trying to chase. It wasn’t particularly chasing the money at that stage, because I didn’t really care about the money. It was about going through the routine of waking up, putting the bets on, seeing what the outcome was, and if I won, great, but it would all go back on. I’d never cash anything out. I’d never be left with anything.

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I remember with a particular bookmaker, I was losing that much money, I was given a VIP status with them. I got an account manager essentially who was, looking back, they posed as a friend, we’ll give you X, Y, and Z. I got taken to Ascot. Got taken to watch Man United at Old Trafford VIP. I got taken to Wembley. Got taken all over because– At that stage, you think, “This is fantastic.” The reason they’re doing it is because you’re losing. You’re actually paying for it. You’re not getting it for free, you’re actually paying for it with the bets that you’re putting on.

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When I finally quit, and finally stopped, I relied on social media. I relied on Twitter a hell of a lot. There’s people out there that really, really helped me through it. I suppose it falls in the category of lived experience. I was talking to these people with lived experience, people had done it, they had done it themselves, and given up.

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Mentally as well, you’re all over the place. The mental aspect of it also falls in the long-term for me, because when I was gambling, I obviously there was a cycle of depression and stuff like that. When I stopped gambling, this sounds really silly, but I dreamt about it quite a lot. I’d wake up in the night, sweating, etc just after dreams. It took its toll on me, it really, really did, thinking about what if, and what if I would have stopped earlier, would we be in the debt that we were in at the time? It took me to a really, really dark place, to the stage where I actually attempted to commit suicide because of the after-effects of gambling.

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I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and they attributed that to the gambling, direct diagnosis from gambling harm.

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You’ve got the guilt, the shame, the what if, all those and constantly questioning yourself, but when I stopped gambling and spoke to people about it and the first people I spoke to were my mother and father-in-law about it because I needed– We borrowed quite a bit of money from them and they knew there was something going on, but they didn’t know what. When I stopped gambling, I thought it was important for me to go and explain about what I’ve been going through. They were in the generation where they don’t really understand, not addiction itself, but gambling addiction because it’s not really prevalent, it’s not really spoke about. When people say addiction, you automatically go to drugs or alcohol, gambling’s not spoke about in the same way. The question I got, my first question was, “Why couldn’t you just stop?” Now, you wouldn’t ask that to a drug addict, you wouldn’t ask that to an alcoholic.

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I think bookmakers potentially could go down the route of being members only, you’d have a key or whatever, you’d swipe it on the door and it’d let you in. Then anybody who is self-excluded would be denied. For me, that would be key.

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I felt a little bit isolated; I left all my friends behind. My family were still back at home. I’d go online, downloaded an app with a particular bookmakers, got numerous free bets. Start off with spending probably £20, £30 a week maximum at that point and then gradually going into the bookies to place bets as well and whilst I was in the bookies I was playing the FOBTs.

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